One excellent film that perhaps could be the basis for some gender and society discussions is My Big Fat Greek Wedding. At the end of the film, after the Wedding, the father of the bride describes the rationalization that allowed him to accept his daughter’s marriage to a non-Greek man:
“I-I was thinking last night, um, the night before my-my daughter was gonna marry, uh, I-an Miller, that, um, you know, the root of the word Miller is a Greek word. Miller come from the Greek word Milo, which is mean apple, there you go. As many of you know, our name Portokalos is come from the Greek word Portokali, which means orange. So, okay, here tonight we have, uh, apple and orange… we all different, but, in the end, we all fruit.”
The comparison of apples and oranges is nicely reflected in Delphy’s article “Rethinking Sex and Gender.” She points out that even though the differences between vegetables (or fruits) are multiple, they do not exist in any sort of hierarchy (61). So she questions why men and women, who are all human (like the fruit), have existed in a hierarchy since before anyone can remember. Why do the differences between men and women necessarily result in inequity – and why does it have to remain so?
Mr. Portokalos’s initial fear of welcoming a non-Greek into the family reflects the rather intense “fear that we might lose what seem to be fundamental social categories” that Delphy accurately attributes to humans abandoning the divisions of sex and gender altogether (57). As (somewhat) rational beings, humans love to make sense of absolutely everything in their world. Making sense of the sexed marks on our bodies with nicely outlined gender categories makes sense – until you realize these gender categories do not even fit. So for right now, I am prepared to take Delphy’s advice and imagine a world without gender.